How to Deal With the Haters in MLM
If you are reading this, chances are you are part of an MLM and might possibly be dealing with some negativity from others. Whether that be from family or from others, the discouragement can take its toll at times. Many people, it seems, like to discourage me from participating in an industry that is deemed a “pyramid scheme.” What is funny is these people have never actually looked into the industry, let alone any reputable company.
Sometimes we shrug off the negativity from the haters, and sometimes it really is hard to deal with. Just writing this makes me realize that I take the negative things that are said to me to heart much more easily and quickly than anything positive told to me. I’m sure this might be the case for you as well.
The number one way to deal with the negativity coming from haters, at least in my experience, has been to remember that their negativity usually comes from a source of inadequacy and jealousy on their part. It is a little sad when you think about it. What happens is other people tent to see something in you, whether it be a trait, your success or a tangible item you have, and feelings of inadequacy build in them as they compare themselves to you. Almost in an instant, their inadequacy turns to jealousy which shows itself as some type of negativity, whether action or work.
As I have continued to grow my Kyäni MLM business, I have unfortunately seen this happen all too often, even from some of my closest friends and family members. I did not think it was possible for people I knew so well to behave so poorly, especially over my own achievements that I assumed they would celebrate with me.
I have to constantly remind myself that I have done nothing wrong by sacrificing my time to build a business. I used to feel guilty when I would succeed with my Kyäni business because I felt I was making someone close to me feel bad. I quickly realized that whatever feelings of jealousy they are feeling is due to some issue they have. I regularly remind myself I have done nothing wrong by working hard and succeeding.
Admittedly, there are times when that trick alone will not make a difference in stopping the hate and negativity. Sometimes I have to simply block or unfriend people on my social media accounts to make the problem go away. Doing so is hard because it is not an accurate representation of how I feel about the person, but rather their behavior. I always hope that these people are able to one day look past their underlying issues of insecurity and inadequacy so that we can return to having a quality relationship.
Another technique I have used in dealing with negative people is to simply speak bluntly with them about their behavior and comments. On more than one occasion I have had to lovingly say to someone that I value our relationship and want it to continue but I simply cannot deal with some of their actions. I specifically include some verbiage along the lines of “I wish this was not affecting our relationship because I would love to continue having a positive relationship with you.” Depending on the person, sometimes this goes very well and sometimes it fails so miserably it could be considered comical.
In the end, I tend to just ignore the negativity and those that are constantly spewing it. I focus on building and maintaining those relationships that are positive, which seek to celebrate my successes with me with no hidden agenda or jealousy. Above that, I have learned to do the hardest thing in this situation which is to continue to being yourself no matter what. When you finally realize that there will be jealousy no matter how you act, what you do or who you are, you will quickly feel a feeling of freedom that you can and should be your complete self. You need to do this for you, otherwise you will start harboring feelings of jealousy and anger towards those who are happy and living their lives for themselves.
This is a lot of information on how to deal with negativity in relationships, but only because relationships are so powerful and critical to our daily happiness. You can choose to surround yourself with people focused on complaining and tearing you apart, or you can surround yourself with those who will build you up and celebrate with you each time you win. The latter group of people will always lead you to further success.